I used to call her “Mother” (sometimes, Mamang) – not Mommy, Mom, or any other term commonly associated to a female biological parent. (I wish she’s still around today. I still miss her – terribly – there’s not a single day that passes by without me thinking about her.) I also call my grandmothers “Inang” (equivalent term for “Mother” in Iluko, my local language). Reason being, it is my way of telling her, my mother, (and my grandmothers) that I respect them and that I am in awe with the likes of them – people who are capable of loving another in the most nurturing way possible. Every daughter or son, or every person who have been lucky enough to have been nurtured by a “mother’s love” knows what I mean, am sure.
As a single woman, I have this notion that to become a mother is probably the easiest yet the most difficult decision that a woman would make in her entire life. Motherhood, I think, is not merely a description attached to female parents who possess the most nurturing of hearts; it also pertains to the never-ending acts of endurance and love that mothers are known for.
Having been given the chance to work alongside many parents (in one time or another), especially mothers, I’ve somehow seen and felt the pain, fear, triumph, disappointments, and the need for endurance normally associated to motherhood – especially when somewhere along the way, taking care of/nurturing children becomes more ‘challenging’ than usual.
For one thing, not all children are born normal; and not all normal children grow up to become exemplary sons and/or daughters, or as law-abiding/productive citizens for that matter. As one mother that I’ve talked with put it -
‘Deciding to become a mother is like gambling with the future; the result is something that you can never control, and that is the scary part of it. It’s like you are betting everything in your life in the hope of becoming a worthwhile parent. But at the end of the day, you don’t really get to know if you’ve realistically succeeded in raising a child well. But whether your kids had grown up and become exemplary individuals or they ended up becoming mass murderers or terrorists, you cannot help but keep on loving them with all your heart – simply because you are a mother. You just get on loving your kids because you are a mother regardless of what your children will become as people. Motherhood is all about that.’
Motherhood, in my belief, remains to be the ‘BIGGEST’ of all words associated to women. In spite of the many choices of pursuits and endeavors now available to women (career-wise, that is), motherhood still posits the biggest of challenge to any woman. The fact that more and more women are considering motherhood through adoption (which seems to be the ‘trend these days) shows that most of us, women, are still willing to do the toughest job possible. Raising a child. Another seemingly emerging trend is the willingness of women to have a child/children outside marriage (or not cohabiting with their children’s father, so to speak). Though personally, am not in favor of single parenting, I still admire their willingness to take that challenging responsibility.
Whatever the circumstances are, women who choose (and had chosen) to take charge in nurturing another human being are definitely admirable – especially when they strive to become exemplary mothers. The future rests upon the manner in which they raise their children. In my book, mothers are definitely the most wonderful real-life heroes of all times.
Note: To celebrate and honor “motherhood”, please remember all motherless children (orphaned/abandoned) in the world- make it a habit to reach out and share love to the likes of them as much as you can..
***Lifted from the pages of my personal notes (for Mother’s Day)….
- Thoughts on Motherhood (joyinthemoments.com)
- “M” is for Motherhood (melindawentzel.com)
- Reflections on Motherhood (girlwiththepen1118.wordpress.com)
- Motherhood Wanderings… (4tunate.net)
- On how black mothers define motherhood as freedom (bluemilk.wordpress.com)
- Motherhood has changed me down to the DNA (thepunch.com.au)
- Mother’s Day (rubylane.com)
- Motherhood Is Victory – Desiring God (craigsturm.wordpress.com)
- Mothering Creation (nicoleciccarelli.com)
- Is This the Greatest Mother’s Day Portrait Ever? (bigthink.com)
- Motherhood on Mother’s Day (jennyonthespot.com)
- Darby Hickey: Reflections On Motherhood (huffingtonpost.com)
- A celebration of motherhood… (nicholeheady.typepad.com)
- Motherhood’s Secret (patcegan.wordpress.com)
- Thoughts on Motherhood ~ (oneshetwoshe.com)
- Molly Stracuzzi: Savor every precious moment of motherhood (tcpalm.com)
- When Motherhood Comes Calling (alakananda.wordpress.com)
- The Relevance of Mothers Day (socyberty.com)
- Ode to Mothers To-Be (theblueprintblog.wordpress.com)
- Motherhood-First Do No Harm (lifeandcrimesofmistressrosie.com)
- an un-mother’s day (motheringspirit.wordpress.com)
- A Poem For Hearts That Ache Emptily On Mother’s Day (via Rebecca Reynolds) (garyware.me)
- friendship and motherhood (livingthecovetedlife.wordpress.com)